Jutta Salzberg Levy

KONICA MINOLTA DIGITAL CAMERAI have put off writing this post.  I have put off writing, because it is so painful to share the news that on September 4, 2013, my dear mother, Jutta Salzberg Levy, died.  Not just that, though–it’s not just that it is painful.  If I’m going to tell you about my mother’s death,  you see, I want to tell you about her life, too.  You may know something of her life, because she is, after all, the central figure in my book, The Year of Goodbyes.  But that book covers just one year in her long (not long enough) life, when she was 11 and 12 twelve years old.  And there is so much more to know than her life in Germany in 1938.

So I have put off writing because when I reach inside for the right thing to say here, I am finding both a geyser of memories and, at the same time, a well that has run dry.  Some might call it writer’s block.  I think it’s simply daughter’s grief.

And yet, I do want visitors to this website–who are likely to know “Jutta Salzberg” from The Year of Goodbyes–to know that she is gone, and I want you to know at least a little bit more.  For that little bit more, the best I can do for now is to share what I said about Mom at her funeral service. . . .


When Rick told me on Thursday morning, the day after Mom died, that my sister in law and brother in law were going to drive in to D.C. from Ithaca for today; when Sharon told me, also on Thursday, that my mother’s niece and her husband were driving down from New Haven—I had the same impulse I have when I catch a really nice fish:  To tell my mother.  “Mom, Ann and Brian are coming in, isn’t that nice; Mom, Susie and Marty are driving down, isn’t that great; Mom, Kathy flew up from Greensboro; Jon and Melni are here from Connecticut; Mom—I caught a 23 inch rockfish. . . .”

I’m having the same impulse now:  “Mom, look at all your friends who gathered to say goodbye!”

I don’t know that I’ll ever free myself of the impulse—the need—to pick up the phone or get in the car and drive over to talk to my mother.

And I know that I’m not the only one.  My mother made friends everywhere she went and at all stages of her life.  In the grocery store checkout line.  At the gym.  In the beauty parlor.  The nail salon.  The theater.  The doctor’s office.  The dialysis center.  At my dining room table, with my friends.  At my friends’ dining room tables, with theirs.  There was, it seems to me, nothing my mother liked to do more than get to know people, all kinds of people, from all walks of life and different ages and religions and ethnicities and, even, believe it or not, political persuasions.

We could always get a table at Clyde’s because she became friends with servers and managers there.  We could always get a hot ticket at the Kennedy Center because she became friends with a very dear man, whose name shall remain top secret, in the box office.  She didn’t make friends to score a reservation or a theater seat.  Mom was without guile in that way.  She made friends because she found people, in all their variety, infinitely interesting and inherently worthwhile.

But, as anyone who knew her knows, my mother was not all talk.  Relationships and the attendant yakking were central, but so were experiences.  Here are some things Mom did with me into her 80s:  kayak, fish, fish from a kayak, run around in a power boat, run aground in a power boat at a fairly high speed (my heart was in my throat, she was kind of, “and so?”), explore Sugarloaf mountain or, to be exact, the products of the Sugarloaf mountain winery, go to dive-y jazz clubs. . . .

Here are things she did without me—not into her 80s, but still—helicopter around the rim of a volcano, get submerged in a submarine, travel to Alaska and Russia when such travel was still exotic, become a charter member of Bally Total Fitness and joyfully head to the gym for classes—aerobics, weights, Pilates—almost every day. . . .

Really, Mom could be a beer commercial:  “Go for the gusto.”  She loved the Kennedy Center, National Theater, opera, parties, movies, her grandsons, the rest of us in the family, her friends. . . .

And so I’m back to her friends.  Which brings us back to relationships, and to talking, and how, right now, I want to say, “Hey, Mom, shall I bring you a copy of Rick’s eulogy?”

But I’m going to veer in a slightly different direction, to finish out with something else that Mom loved, and this is a direct quote:

“I love my stuff.”

She said this to an auditorium full of seventh and eighth graders at the Holton-Arms School.  It was 2010 and I’d just finished a talk on my then-new book about Mom’s last year  in Nazi Germany.  One chapter depicts my 12-year-old mother agonizing over what would fit into the suitcase she was allowed when she and her family were packing to leave Germany forever.  Now, at Holton-Arms, it was Q&A time, and I had a not-so-secret weapon in the audience:  my mother herself.  Hands waved.  The kids wanted to know—how did she feel leaving behind her friends, family, home?  How did she feel about leaving her stuff?

How did she feel?  “Terrible,” she said.  “I love my stuff.”

Truer words were never spoken.

When we sifted through her stuff at the house on Vance Place, before the move to the apartment, Mom could barely contemplate selling anything.  I insisted—everybody downsizes, Mom!—and we pulled together enough for an uninspired estate sale.

I admit:  Mistakes were made.  The Barbra Streisand CDs:  missing and presumed trashed.  There were tears.

The opera glasses that belonged to Mom’s mother-in-law, a woman so forbidding that my mother only ever referred to her as “Mrs. Levy,” not “Mom” or “my mother-in-law”: missing and presumed sold.  More tears.

My mother’s love affair with her stuff makes sense.  You may lose your childhood, but if you manage to hang on to your poesiealbum—it’s not entirely lost.

You may lose your father at a young age, but if you have the mother-of-pearl handbag he gave you, his doting love remains tangible.

Your mother-in-law never liked you—but in the end you got her exquisite opera glasses.

So, loving your stuff isn’t really about loving your stuff.  It’s about loving your life.  And, although there were certainly some low points, my mother loved her life.  It was full of people, it was full of gusto, and also, okay, it was full of a certain amount of truly cherished stuff.

At a park in Hamburg, Germany

At a park in Hamburg, Germany

Vacationing with family near Lodz, Poland (Jutta is on far left)

Vacationing with family near Lodz, Poland (Jutta is on far left)

Around 18 years old, Washington, D.C.

Around 18 years old, Washington, D.C.










2005 reunion in D.C. with classmates from 1930s Jewish School for Girls of Hamburg, Germany

2005 reunion in D.C. with classmates from 1930s Jewish School for Girls of Hamburg, Germany

With Valerie and Janee Ross, creators of incredibly good Boss ice cream

With Valerie and Janee Ross, creators of incredibly good Boss ice cream









With me and Sister Patricia Gamgort, OSB, of Saint Martin's Ministries, Ridgely, MD

With me and Sister Patricia Gamgort, OSB, of Saint Martin’s Ministries, Ridgely, MD

Making an instant connection, of course, with Adriana Trigiani

Making an instant connection, of course, with Adriana Trigiani










Garrison Forest School, Owings Mills, MD

Garrison Forest School, Owings Mills, MD

And now she paddles away. . . .

And now she paddles away. . . .

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14 Responses to Jutta Salzberg Levy

  1. Pam Smallcomb says:

    Debbie, I lost my mom in January. I still reach for the phone, and wish I could tell her things. For some reason the grocery store is hard – I guess because I always bought her chocolate. 🙂 Your mom was an amazing woman. Thank you for sharing these memories.
    I’m so very sorry for your loss.

  2. Jan M says:

    Thank you for sharing

  3. Debbie says:

    This is beautiful, Debbie. I wish I had known her. Sending hugs from the other side of the world.

    • Debbie Levy says:

      Debbie, as an enthusiastic traveler, my mom would have wanted to know absolutely everything about your far-flung travel adventures. You two would have been in for some long conversations.

      Thanks for the hugs.

  4. Lena V. says:

    Debbie, again u made me cry… I am getting too emotional thinking about my parents and enjoying them the time we have together. Thank you for sharing!

  5. Nancy Siegel says:

    I can’t help but think back to our Neighborhood, and the memories that brings up. Juttta will be remembered fondly.

  6. Khalidah Kamal says:

    I work at the front desk of the USC Shoah Foundation, and I like to spend my free time watching as many survivors’ testimonies as I can.

    I happened to come across Jutta Levy’s testimony, and I find her so fascinating and her story is so captivating. So sorry to learn that she recently passed.

    • Debbie Levy says:

      Khalidah, I’m afraid my earlier reply to you got lost in my spam control system, but I wanted to make sure you heard from me so I am replying again. I am so moved, as my mother would have been, to know that you watched and appreciated her testimony. Thank you for letting me know.

  7. judy gaines says:

    Debbie, Thank you for your beautiful words about your dear mother. I remember Jutta fondly from the Portraits of Life exhibit. She was always so much fun, upbeat, and full of life.

    • Debbie Levy says:

      Judy, thank you for writing. She was all the things you describe, and more. I have the Portraits of Life catalogue here on my bookshelf, including the spread with Mom and my Aunt Ruthie. I just love it, and loved the exhibit.

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